Top 6 Ways to Give a Virtual Hug

Dr. Nieca • Feb 14, 2022

Top 6 Ways to Give a Virtual Hug

Whether you gathered with your besties for Galentine’s or Palentine’s Day on February 13, or are canoodling with your main squeeze on February 14 for Valentine’s Day, the rituals of celebrating love fills our hearts with warmth. And that warmth—which signals the release of the neurotransmitter oxytocin—is actually good for our hearts. It relaxes blood vessels and reduces blood pressure. Given recent studies that show that loneliness and social isolation can increase heart disease risk in older women, taking time to share the love is more important than ever.


But with the surge in the Omicron Covid-19 variant, how can we still get those warm fuzzies without risking exposure to the virus? And what are some tried and true ways to let love go to our hearts? Here are six ways to give a virtual “hug” during Heart Month—and all year long.

Hug a loved one. We often take our immediate family or roommates—the people inside our safety bubble—for granted, especially after repeatedly leaving dishes in the sink or not taking out the garbage. But have you considered giving them a hug instead of criticism? Hugs release oxytocin, an effect that is even more pronounced in women, as well as building mutual feelings of support.


Adopt an animal. A number of studies conclude that people who live with a companion animal live longer. Beneficial effects include much more than hugs—increased activity, being soothed by petting, companionship and an uncritical listener are among the advantages.


Call your mom. We forget about the social support of loved ones who live far away when we need reassurance. But parents, grandparents and other loved ones from previous generations can offer a precious viewpoint based on life experience. And a call can make you and them feel good, especially if they’ve been isolated. It’s a win-win!


Offer kind words. While you’re calling your folks, keep in mind the power of offering kind words. Not only are they good for building and improving relationships, they offer many of the oxytocin benefits of a hug and help lower cortisol levels.

Start (or join) a club. Not everyone has family to fall back on, but you’re never too old to join a club or organization dedicated to something you enjoy. Clubs are a great way to make new friends and build the kind of social support that extends life expectancy and gives us those warm and fuzzy benefits.


Send Valentine’s Day cards. Sometimes old school is the best school. Taking the time to be intentional and sending loved ones cards telling them how much they mean to you may sound cliché, but sharing kind words on paper can have multiple benefits, with all the benefits of hearing kind words and building a network of mutual support. And it even works after Valentine’s Day!

It’s Not Just Your Mother’s Heart Disease: Why Heart Disease is Being Found in Young Women

By Dr. Nieca • 25 Feb, 2022
Young women rarely worry about heart attack, assuming they’re not at risk, but nothing could be further from the truth. If you have an autoimmune disease, had complications during your pregnancies, or have been diagnosed with certain congenital conditions, you may be at increased risk.

World Hypertension Day

By P P • 17 May, 2018
Did you recently hear on the news that your previously “normal” blood pressure is now considered “high” and recommended new medical interventions? If so, you may want to hold off until you discuss this with your physician further, says a new report in JAMA Internal Medicine. According to the University of Sydney and Bond University, getting more aggressive with your treatment could have unintended consequences. By lowering the threshold for drug treatment of adults considered at risk of extreme high blood pressure from 140/80 mmHg to 130/80, patients are at greater risk for medication side effects and feelings of anxiety and depression due to worry about the diagnosis. There’s also the concern that if there’s a switch in health insurance you could suddenly find yourself with a pre-existing condition.

When it comes to exercise, every little bit helps

By Dr. Nieca Goldberg • 05 Apr, 2018
The common wisdom when it comes to exercise is that it must be sustained for at least 30 minutes to get any sort of value. Far too frequently in my practice I hear patients say, “I just don’t have the time to dedicate to an exercise routine.” But, as I’ve been saying for years, every little bit helps—and now there’s a major study that confirms this in the Journal of the American Heart Association. Gretchen Reynolds in The New York Times wrote about how the 2008 federal exercise guidelines recommending 30 minutes of sustained activity five times a week to reduce the risk of disease or premature death didn’t support the advantages of multiple, smaller bursts of activity because they didn’t seem to improve endurance. However, the new study shows that moving does have a direct effect on longevity. In other words, the more you move, the more you cut your mortality risk.

Why Breakfast Still Matters

By P P • 17 Jan, 2018
There are many reasons that I favor a healthy breakfast, including: Studies show an association between skipping breakfast and obesity, thought to be linked to impulsive snacking during the day to slake hunger pains. Eating breakfast is the first step to planning a healthier lifestyle and making better choices. Eating more food earlier in the day when you’re most active is an excellent way to control weight. The old adage: eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a pauper, still has merit. Studies show that regularly eating a healthy breakfast helps schoolchildren do better on tests.

Keeping those New Year’s Resolutions Going

By P P • 11 Jan, 2018
Stop me if you heard this one: You hit the gym with great motivation after New Year’s, determined to work off all the Christmas cookies, ham, latkes, pot roast, eggnog and cocktails. You signed up for yoga, cut out sugar, bought a lot of kale and started drinking eight glasses of water a day. Now, two weeks in your willpower is waning. The kale is lying limp in your vegetable drawer. You’re craving hot cocoa and pasta. And it’s so cold outside and so dark when the alarm goes off at 6 a.m. all you want to do is stay curled up in bed watching Netflix and eating comfort food.

How to Cut the Salt for Your Heart and Your Health

By Dr. Nieca Goldberg • 30 Oct, 2017
I was recently on The Doctors to set the record straight about what too much salt does to our bodies. Studies show that high-salt diets are responsible for 57,000 deaths per year and I have patients who wouldn’t survive such a diet. Anyone who is sodium-sensitive, has salt-reactive high blood pressure, diabetes or heart disease needs to limit their salt intake. The same goes for people with a family history of hypertension, which is found in many African-American families. Also, some people become more sodium sensitive as they age and there’s no way to know who these people are before they develop high blood pressure. The easiest preventive? Cut back on salt, especially salt in processed foods. Too much sodium can increase your risk of stroke, heart failure, osteoporosis, stomach cancer and kidney disease.

How can I control my blood pressure?

By Dr. Nieca Goldberg • 08 Jul, 2017
Blood pressure control is generally achieved by a combination of exercise and a heart healthy diet. For most people, The DASH diet is among the most effective diets to keep blood pressure under control. Those veggies are also good for the waistline! More generally, diet in combination with physical activity, weight loss, lowering alcohol and meditation generally contribute to productive control of blood pressure.

Santa Barbara is Refreshing!

By Dr. Nieca Goldberg • 08 Jul, 2017
Last month I crossed the country to Santa Barbara, for a dream vacation, with my husband; a weeklong retreat from city life that pushed us to relax our minds while working the rest of the body. We hiked in good walking shoes, we soaked ourselves in sunscreen—even on cloudy days. We carried plenty of water bottles—and remembered to stay hydrated all day. We walked along the beaches and hiked rocky and steep trails. My hiking sticks offer an upper body work out, to boot. It was exercise with a double benefit; fabulous fun that helps lower a multitude of health risks, including heart attack, stroke and high blood pressure. The big bonus was my husband Robert’s talented and clever photographic eye. We have beautiful memories and proof that I practice what I preach!

How Old Are Your Arteries?

By Dr. Nieca Goldberg • 08 Jul, 2017
A few gray hairs here, a few wrinkles there around the eyes are treated as tell-tale signs of aging; worthy of time, effort, and expense to slow down the process, to the extent practicable. A similar connection may be made to high blood pressure and vascular aging. Blood vessels stiffen as you get older and increase the resistance to blood being pumped out of your heart. This increased resistance results in high blood pressure. In an interview with Consumer Reports for the June 2017 issue of Journal Hypertension, I discussed healthy vascular aging. The research showed that more than 30% of people in their 50’s had signs of vascular aging; only 1% over 70 had healthy vascular aging.
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